Hi Jenni,

Please don't for one moment beat yourself up, Bernie has got a fantastic mum and a great role model she gets all the love she needs from you and will I'm quite sure be a credit to you as she grows up.

As a foster carer I see first hand the damage that is done to children when they don't have that secure and stable first few years in their lives and parents who continually let them down and can't even turn up for contact four times a year.

Hope you have a great weekend.

Anne x

Hi again

I am about the get ready for the wedding

I managed a swim yesterday with my family (lovely warm pool) and I so appreciated the access etc.

AnnieB. There is a book I want to chat about- for anyone who has personal or professional contact with children who have had very difficult starts. It's called 'the boy who raised as a dog' by Bruce perry. Sound depressing but incredibly positive and forward thinking. Pulling no punches but short and fascinating and unlike most adoption/fostering/trauma related books is a real page turner. I have found it a very valuable read this summer, I can certainly recommend it- such insights into my teen adoptees.

My ra is ok, I'm very stiff and I was aware in the pool how twisted my frame has become. I do think I need to go swimming more in a warm pool... Will investigate further!

Hope the wedding was great. As for the pool - try to have another swim before you leave xxxxxx